The truth is though, that I firmly believe that life is what we make it. Blaming things on the universe is silly, because the universe responds to your actions, thoughts and desires! What this means for me personally is that it's time to take a long hard look at what I've been doing and determine how I got "stuck" in my current situation, and what I can do now to change it.
Here are a list of my excuses for different problems I've been facing and new solutions I've come up with to solve them. My steps are to 1) identify the problem 2) list the excuses for not being able to get around the problem and 3) analyze and break down excuses, come up with new solutions for getting around the problem. . .
Problem #1: I can't find a suitable apartment for my boyfriend and I.
Excuse: All of the apartments we find on Craigslist either look too small, have a broker's fee or do not want couples renting from them.
Solution: It strikes me right away how limiting my excuses are. I'm writing off decent apartments before I even see them in person. Size can only be determined in the flesh. I need to trust that if we really love the apartment, we will find the money for a broker's fee. And to combat the couple's issue- I should be asking people I know if they have heard of any apartment openings. Need to open my mind more to this area for sure.
Problem #2: Have been stuck in my current job which I do not enjoy.
Excuse: I have gone on other interviews, but they never work out. I can't seem to figure out what I want to do with my career. The economy is bad and I'm not finding any suitable job offers because of it.
Solution: The truth is, the fact that I don't know what I really want to do is what's holding me back, not the economy! Quite honestly my dream would be to own a blog that inspires and uplifts people, while also sustaining a steady income from it. That is going to require more hard work on my part, not pointless job interviews! I would however like to gain experience in event planning and/or hospitality. Since I have no experience in the field per se, I should probably be focusing on getting more education first before blindly applying to random jobs. This dilemma is going to take time to resolve properly, and I will just have to accept that! Also, while I don't love my job right now, I need to adjust my attitude about it and find things about it that I can use for my own personal benefit. For example, they offer tuition reimbursement, so I should really be looking into that for the education I would like! I also need to start tuning in to what I love about my current/previous jobs so I can start to understand where my strengths, weaknesses and interests lie. It'll help me make better career decisions moving forward.
Problem #3: My personal fitness and healthy eating habits no longer exist- I feel SO unhealthy.
Excuse: I get up at 5 am to get ready for work and usually don't get home till 7:30 pm or later every night. I am too tired to exercise, I'd rather be doing something (like blogging!) that interests me and makes me feel accomplished personally. Also, I hate to exercise in the house when my parents are home. It is frustrating. I eat bad because I feel like I have already lost all control over my health.
Solution: Ok so obviously my excuses are SILLY. Exercising IS a personal accomplishment! One that I know deep down will make me feel great. I will have to create a schedule that allows me to exercise and have nights off to do other activities. It is ok if this leaves me with little freedom for spontaneous activities at the moment, I am trying to avoid going out excessively anyway because I am a) trying to save money and b) abstaining from alcohol. Having this fitness routine will help me to avoid potential situations that may be harmful to those goals. As far as eating, I will admit it's hard to eat healthy when you sit in an office all day. I will have to stock up my desk with healthy snacks that I can munch on instead of garbage like chocolate. From this second forward I will NOT eat chocolate, cake or ice cream again until I get back on track and can control my eating!
These are really my three main priorities at the moment. Writing them out like this really helped me to think everything through and realize how ridiculous all of my excuses sound. I am definitely going to do this with any problems I am facing in the future! The great thing about it is that it can pretty much work for anything- relationships, home life, etc. It may also be helpful for you all to change up scenery whenever you are feeling stuck in your situations. Go on a trip, shake up your daily routine, talk to new people, be spontaneous. Doing something out of the ordinary will give you insight into others ways of doing things that you may have never thought of before. It is important to stay inspired when looking for the path to change. Open yourself to new ideas and opinions. It may be just the thing you need to take that first step.
Do you have different ways of getting through difficult situations? What do you use to help you make big life decisions?
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